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Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World
Jill Rigby

Howard Books, 2008 - 288 pages

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Child expert Jill Rigby reveals the dangers of the self-esteem parenting philosophy and offers an alternative approach that teaches children to respect both themselves and others.

After decades of experimenting with child-focused parenting, parents are beginning to realize that the result is often self-centered children who tend toward narcissism, selfishness, mediocrity, and dysfunction. Rigby espouses a new goal of parenting: gently bumping children off self-center and teaching them to be unselfish givers instead. Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World dares to revisit the values of compassion, forgiveness, thanksgiving, and unselfishness and insists that we can instill these values in our children.

With her encouraging approach, Rigby helps parents realize it's never too late to change their children's point of view and equip them to interact with kindness and respect in a world outside themselves. Teaching concepts, such as developing a passion for compassion, learning to give by forgiving, and filling every day with thanksgiving, Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World offers a new paradigm for parenting -- one that educates the heart and teaches moms and dads how to parent with a new end in mind.


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The best parenting book ever!

If you have children or plan on having children in the future, you must read and re-read this book! It gives detailed priciples and how-tos to train you children from the beginning. One of the biggest principles is that it begins with you as the parent and Jill gives instructions for you. I love how she breaks down the duties/responsiblities for the kids by age. As long as you have children living in your home, this is a must! I just gave a copy at a baby shower this weekend! This is a great way for a couple to plan how they will raise their children before the issues come up and surprise you. I heard about this book from Dr. Laura, thank you Dr. Laura!


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Parents looking to protect and guard their children from a culture of excess will applaud Rigby's efforts

If only kids came with instruction manuals! That's the heart cry of many parents who are struggling to navigate the world of raising children. Living in our modern culture only compounds the complexities as parents are forced to make thousands of little decisions to determine "How much is enough?" versus "How much is too much?" while raising their kids.

Jill Rigby tries to assist parents in her new book, RAISING UNSELFISH CHILDREN IN A SELF-ABSORBED WORLD, which attempts to equip them with tactics to help deal with the narcissism and selfishness prevalent in our society. She begins by reassessing the goal of parenting and challenging moms and dads to think about how they're raising their kids and what they want them to become.

Drawing on timeless childhood stories like SNOW WHITE and THE SECRET GARDEN, she argues that parents have a choice to make. Will they raise their kids to become selfless grown-ups, or self-absorbed adults who can't function well because they feel entitled? In today's culture of excess, the change must begin at the heart level, with the parent. She invites readers to make an honest assessment of their own self-centeredness, offering a "Generosity Quotient Test" to help you determine your own level of generosity.

Then she challenges parents to devise a plan. Simple things like committing to God to raise your children to be other-centered rather than self-centered, committing to live with less to enjoy more, committing to tithe and committing to enjoy family togetherness are a few of the promises she encourages parents to make. To fulfill these commitments, Rigby advises them to get into God's world, live with integrity and walk out their faith every day.

Rigby distinguishes between needs and wants of children, highlighting the importance of not giving into a child's every whim. She says that it's important to maintain control of your child and not overwhelm him or her with options. While many psychologists emphasize the importance of self-esteem, Rigby argues that it's much more important to have God-confidence and walk in gratitude and humility. Throughout the book, Rigby highlights her teachings with statistics and anecdotes.

While many of the stories are compelling, far too few are drawn from her own experiences as a mother, leaving the reader to wonder how she handled this issue and what she learned from her mistakes. Despite this lack of personal touch and vulnerability, the book offers time-tested principles on how to raise children to be outwardly focused and confident in who they are as individuals.

While the first few chapters seem disjointed --- with scriptures thrown in without any directed analysis or tie-in --- the book gets better with each passing chapter. The appendix includes helpful resources, including a brief listing of movies great for family discussion as well as a list of state family policy councils to help you connect with government officials. For parents concerned with indecent storefront displays at their local malls, Rigby provides a list of mall management companies to call and complain to.

Parents looking to protect and guard their children from a culture of excess will applaud Rigby's efforts.

--- Reviewed by Margaret Oines




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Wonderful and Practical

This book is so well written and such a quick read. Selfishness is such an inherent part of our human nature and something that we allow to run rampant in our lives. I loved that the book not only made me think of things I want to change as we raise our children, but also made me examine my own heart and start each day with a prayer for the selfishness to be taken out of me. So many actions are fueled by selfishness, right down to me not wanting to get off the couch when I am reading to help my children. It has caused me to examine my motives so much. Then the author provides examples of things to do with your children, which are so practical, and she breaks them down by age group, which is so helpful! I highly recommend this book. I just have a borrowed copy from the library and would like to get one of my own to reread and for reference as my children grow!


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The Message

I think the ideas and insights in this book are essential to every parent. Jill Rigby has got some great advice with a Biblical perspective that really hits home to any and every mom and dad!

The only problem I have is her frequent use of "The Message" in quoting scripture. The Message, by Eugene Peterson, is a loosly paraphrased version of the Bible that is actually more of an opinion then a paraphrase. Some of his insights are actually UN Biblical. I wish Ms. Rigby had done her homework a bit better in this depatment, as all Christans should always promote God's Truth and His Sacred Word.


I would recommend the book, as long as the reader can handle using their spiritual discernment regularily.

God bless



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Inspiring/Motivating book

This is a great book with some great ideas as long as you take them for suggestions and not hard truth. I think sometimes she comes off as this is the only way...but they can just be guidelines or ideas. I am really excited and motivated about helping my daughter think about others and grow to become a giving/ non-selfish, confident woman now.


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