For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men | Shaunti Feldhahn

For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men | Shaunti Feldhahn | hits every nail on the head

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	For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men Shaunti Feldhahn Multnomah Books, 2004 - 208 pages average customer review:based on 227 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

Eye Opener

"For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldham gave me a fresh and new perspective on how I relate to my boyfriend and the men around me. This book enabled me to see that when I feel I want something from a man, I may actually be communicating the opposite.

I dislike books that separate men from women or that favor one sex over the other. This book doesn't do that. Instead it delivers information about how men and women communicate. The reader then learns the awareness of the different ways of communicating without making anyone of either sex wrong for how they are being.

Another book that is a special gift is called Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment. The writers Ariel and Shya Kane present a way of living and communicating that opens people's eyes to things they might not have even thought was possible like having a fun, easy and spectacular life..

Both these books offer refreshing ways of viewing & experiencing what is happening around you: this thing we call Life.

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hits every nail on the head

first, allow me to qualify myself: im a guy. now, before you put me on "the list", i was interested in reading both of her books, just to improve my ability to relate should i ever find that "perfect girl". ok... enough with the mushyness.

i partly wanted to read this for the above reason, but also to see if the author knew what she was talking about, and also to learn about myself (perhaps being better able to put words to how i feel).

im only on page 32, but she is so right on for everything!!! i was almost laughing because it was like i was hearing someone describe how i like to drive somewhere without necessarily knowing how to get there. i call it "feeling it out"! other people might calling it driving in circles until you happen to stumble on the right road that will take you where you are going.

the thing that struck me... is that while girls/women might really learn this so they can better relate to their guy, i have a hard time believing she is going to be able to know these things the way a guy "knows" them. it is like having my instincts described back to me, but will an "outsider" (a woman) be able to learn these things beyond merely etching facts onto her mind? i appreciate that she is willing to try for the sake of the relationship, and would definitely commend the effort, but just take into consideration the fact that while you (a woman), may be able to learn these things about a man... it's quite another thing to be able to empathize and/or IDENTIFY with these things. do you know what i mean? like a blind person trying to listen to someone tell them what it is like to be able to see, or for a deaf person trying to read what it is like to be able hear. I would highly applaud the author for "writing" such an accurate and true description, but for all the "deaf" women out there... just keep reading and keep trying to understand! (if you understand my analogy).

but keep trying! the more you even try, the more we (guys) will appreciate it.

(i guess this warning of sorts to keep in mind goes for guys in trying to understand women. haven't checked out the other book yet, but i imagine the author would be just as good conveying to us what they are like!)

[EDIT] One thing i wish the author would attempt to convey beyond the fact that our "feeling" competent is important to us... the enormous importance it has for us. just how important is it that i feel competent/adequate, etc? HIGHLY. INTENSELY. CHIEFLY. get the picture?! maybe if a woman understands HOW important it is to us, perhaps they will be better able to support him and allow him the opportunity to rise to the occasion, even allowing the risk of failure. i guess we as men need to know that sometimes we will need to set that need aside in order to allow place for another priority... whatever it is we stand to lose by conceding that we don't know how to do it, and get the help we need so that that particular problem can be resolved... whatever it is.

[EDIT 2] I'm now on p. 72... and all i can say is that this woman KNOWS WHAT SHE IS TALKING ABOUT!!!!

[EDIT 3] I have since finished it... and all i can say is: if you want to know what men think and feel, this is the book. It also feels good to know I'm normal! Additionally it was nice (for lack of a better word) hearing my thoughts and feelings put into words, when i might not be able to articulate them to myself, whether internally or to someone else, let alone to a girl. I feel almost vindicated and well documented. ha! to the author: Well done.

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Bought several

After reading this book I have shared and bought it for my friends and married daughters. Believe me I have read many many very good marriage type books but this one is different in that it is loaded with surveys. The surveys are especially revealing of the universality of the way men think. It opened my eyes on many issues regarding my husbands behavior - how he is feeling inside and why he reacts as he does to my behavior. It's a fun, helpful, quick read:)

Every woman needs to read this book no matter how old you are!

I've bought this book for every wedding shower I go to, and recomended it to all of my girlfriends. The absolute best self help "man guide" you could ever come across.

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Who knew?????

I know you guys are different - that is great! But I didn't know how different. I enjoy that this isn't a self help book - just a "these are what I found out & organized for you" book. Nice

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